Read: May 2020
Inspiration: Why do so many people talk about this book?
Written with the help of ChatGPT, below is a brief summary to understand what is covered in the book.
“How to Win Friends and Influence People”, published in 1936 by author and lecturer Dale Carnegie, is divided into four sections: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People, Six Ways to Make People Like You, How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking, and Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment. The book teaches readers how to build their confidence and improve their interpersonal relationships in order to become more successful in their personal and professional lives. In the first section, Carnegie discusses the importance of showing genuine interest in others, avoiding criticism and blame, and giving honest and sincere appreciation. The second section focuses on techniques for making others feel important and valued, such as using a person’s name frequently, smiling, and remembering important dates and events. The third section covers ways to persuade others to adopt your perspective, including the use of reasoning and logical argument, and the importance of listening actively to understand others’ viewpoints. The final section discusses the qualities of effective leaders, including the ability to inspire and motivate others, and the importance of maintaining high ethical standards.
Direct from my original book log, below are my unedited notes (abbreviations and misspellings included) to show how I take notes as I read.
***Disclaimer: notes taken before realizing I needed better notes
Praise generously, think of what others will gain, listen and ask questions sincerely, Start conversations with a “yes” (or two) to frame mindset Admit own mistakes first and openly, do not criticize, ask leading questions do not lecture, People do not blame themselves, see selves as victim, be peaceful/diplomatic not abrasive